tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post4092081081772350474..comments2023-10-20T02:21:56.395-07:00Comments on Walking Butterfly: What Works For You?Brenda Susanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-92081203258942318632011-01-23T07:39:36.645-08:002011-01-23T07:39:36.645-08:00love your blog! =) if you want to visit mine you c...love your blog! =) if you want to visit mine you can at http://jenniferscavone.blogspot.com<br /><br />look forward to seeing you there! =)<br /><br />Ciao!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-92209558524290702512011-01-22T15:02:07.403-08:002011-01-22T15:02:07.403-08:00It's a great idea! Forces people out of their ...It's a great idea! Forces people out of their comfort zone and lets them be goofy for an hour...ok, more than an hour. But it's fun!Sandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09894333322881236627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-56329909353606784132011-01-22T09:15:57.199-08:002011-01-22T09:15:57.199-08:00Shawna- Haha! "They SHOULD feel obligated!&qu...Shawna- Haha! "They SHOULD feel obligated!" haha! I love you! Your mom's own regrets are an inspiration to me that I am on the right track. Thanx!<br />OH man, it's true that the girls can make this happen huh? Good advice Young One! :)<br /><br />Shawna again- Yes, they both LOVE to cook and I HATE to cook...so this could be a very good thing! They have both cook for us already and it was great!<br /><br />Betty- Actually Hubs does not like games. Rocker Son's advice about that is that we could all play solitaire in the same room, cause Dad likes that! :) <br />haha!<br /><br />JJ- LOVE your pic btw! Sounds so much like us! Holidays have been frustrating the last few years. Gonna fix that hopefully!<br /><br />Mimi- Yes, do it! Time goes way faster than you expect!Brenda Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-62355269822051432122011-01-22T09:08:23.820-08:002011-01-22T09:08:23.820-08:00BB - Yes, I do like my men, even tho I dislike som...BB - Yes, I do like my men, even tho I dislike some of their crazy choices. So sorry about your son, that must hurt.<br /><br />SCABW- My parents used to cook for us too, now they live out of state.<br /><br />EN- That's cool that they come home often, even if it is for food!<br /><br />Miss Sadie- Thanx! Did not know dogs could type so well!<br /><br />SM- I did and it's been fun to see the responses. ThanxBrenda Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01842228644349167297noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-49004215345884200032011-01-21T16:10:20.831-08:002011-01-21T16:10:20.831-08:00My boys are both younger, 18 & 15, but my youn...My boys are both younger, 18 & 15, but my youngest lives with their dad half the time & their both always busy.<br /><br />I am going to try to schedule a family night on occasion too. All too soon I'll be without them here more often!<br /><br />MimiMimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14269361197256092583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-47072676788769841752011-01-21T15:43:38.825-08:002011-01-21T15:43:38.825-08:00I struggle with this exact same thing. My mom puts...I struggle with this exact same thing. My mom puts terrible shame and guilt on us for not coming over often enough and there's a snowy mountain pass between us for about 5 months out of the year. In turn, I resist being in my kids lives so many times for fear of smothering. I'd love them to make more of an effort on their own but refuse to ask them why they don't. I get my feelings hurt and feel confused every holiday season because of this. What's a mother to do? Where's the happy balance?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-57639154123962400432011-01-21T14:11:45.016-08:002011-01-21T14:11:45.016-08:00I think it´s a great idea that you have. A game ni...I think it´s a great idea that you have. A game night sounds good to me, but not everyone like games (thinking of my hubby here). We are not in this situation yet, but it´s something I plan on doing too.<br />I hope you tell us what you decided on doing.Betty Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02357132033070346815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-27620863186586340852011-01-21T12:17:51.590-08:002011-01-21T12:17:51.590-08:00Can the girls cook? Wouldn't it be fun to have...Can the girls cook? Wouldn't it be fun to have a cooking party with them? If they can't cook, that would be a great way to get your guys home...for your food!✿https://www.blogger.com/profile/01044032159371976375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-68937284992981852612011-01-21T12:17:51.069-08:002011-01-21T12:17:51.069-08:00Can the girls cook? Wouldn't it be fun to have...Can the girls cook? Wouldn't it be fun to have a cooking party with them? If they can't cook, that would be a great way to get your guys home...for your food!✿https://www.blogger.com/profile/01044032159371976375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-20810379506167276232011-01-21T12:16:33.897-08:002011-01-21T12:16:33.897-08:00Um, they should absolutely feel obligated. They ar...Um, they should absolutely feel obligated. They are your children, and you've done an amazing job raising them! They need to learn now that they have a responsibility to visit often.<br /><br />My mom was just sharing her sadness with me the other day that her 4 children do not come over for Christmas because she's never made a big deal out of it, even though she really wanted to. She didn't want to step on any toes or be too demanding. My grandmother always made it clear what she wanted and how she wanted it, and guess what, that's exactly what she got. :)<br /><br />So although I respect your respect for your children's feelings, they owe you girl! Do not be too passive. Take charge, but kind of in a funny way, "Like, look boys. I know you're all grown up, but I'm still your momma and I want to see you at least every two weeks. So here are your options: you can come over here, we can go to your place, or we can all go out. We can do what you want, but we ARE gonna do something. That's non-negotiable." Just be kind of jovial about it.<br /><br />Also, you've mentioned that you love the ladies and they love you. So I'd play up those relationships. Call one of the girls, and ask her to meet you for coffee. If you get the girls in your corner so that they just really like you and enjoy you, THEY will take charge of making sure your sons visit you. Then they'll be the bossy ones, not you. :)<br /><br />Long-winded, I know, but I had some good ideas!✿https://www.blogger.com/profile/01044032159371976375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-36842863115632958872011-01-20T22:09:09.997-08:002011-01-20T22:09:09.997-08:00Me and my folks don't live in the same place a...Me and my folks don't live in the same place and I hear you , when you say you wanna spend time ..I think you should just put out the suggestion and I am sure they will love it ...all the best :)Pria https://www.blogger.com/profile/17757222239521759725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-36304516970848351722011-01-20T20:09:25.707-08:002011-01-20T20:09:25.707-08:00Great plan, Brenda; I hope it works for all of you...Great plan, Brenda; I hope it works for all of you.Miss Sadiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08569594607534260565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-15288667413554482792011-01-20T19:04:10.000-08:002011-01-20T19:04:10.000-08:00I know what you mean about your parents--my mother...I know what you mean about your parents--my mother is negative the first 15 minutes about how no one ever comes to visit...no one is brave enough to tell her that maybe we would if she weren't so dang negative.<br /><br />I haven't had to deal with this situation yet. Our two college babies are in college downtown and travel from their house to ours merely by crossing the Ravenel Bridge. And they cross it as soon as they get hungry, which means we see them several times a week. LOL<br /><br />I think, if it was me, I would put it out there for a game/dinner night once a month in the form of a 'what do you think about this' question. Sounds to me like they would take you up on it without hesitations!Empty Nesterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14060983954463697344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-62622529207672211852011-01-20T18:52:13.477-08:002011-01-20T18:52:13.477-08:00I love this idea! Yes most parents seem to want t...I love this idea! Yes most parents seem to want to see more of their grown kids, but? My MIL cooked once a week for 20 years, we loved going there to eat! We all have fond memories but time changes everything.<br />kim<br />ps I am not a cook???Kim@stuffcould....https://www.blogger.com/profile/03566751822418137457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3152766234203760736.post-23680872060416420162011-01-20T18:11:25.243-08:002011-01-20T18:11:25.243-08:00I think your boys are lucky to have parents who ra...I think your boys are lucky to have parents who raised them to become people that you'd want to hang out with. My son doesn't speak to me and he's my only child. He's 29 so we're not talking a teenager though he acts it. Maybe you should get everyone's opinions so you know how the ladies feel too. Like you said, you don't want them to feel obligated. Sounds like a great family to me!!BBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09432729957196570774noreply@blogger.com